Changing The Way I Think

If I say something and I think something, it will come true.???

Positive thoughts are the key to success.

If you don't believe it, it won't happen.

I saw something on TV this morning that struck a cord with me.  A preacher was speaking about how God wants us all to have abundance.  There are many elements that go into having this abundance but the one I have been contemplating most today is how our own thoughts effect our physical decisions and manifest themselves into reality.  I need to change my thought process!!!

I do think sometimes our thoughts manifest themselves into reality so it is important to know what you want and think positively.  But what if you don't think you are worthy of something because it is outside of everything you have ever known so it is difficult to picture a life, a goal, or an experience that you yourself have never had had or seen.

You know what the end result is but you have never first hand seen someone accomplish it from your position so, you are unsure how to create the map to get there.

It has been done and is being done every day by people but how do they do it?  I think they must find people that act as mentors for them.  I know in my own personal life as a young girl I was lucky enough to be put in situations with women who had accomplished things I wanted to accomplish.  As an adult, I know that having someone to look to for advice and guidance is important in all areas of life, i.e. work, personal, being a woman in general.

I have someone to look to - now I need to believe in myself that I can make it happen.  I use to think that this simply meant being willing enough to put in the physical work to make something come to reality but I am now thinking that there is another element.  I must truly believe that I am not only capable of achieving my goals and having what I want but I am worthy and deserving of at least that. 

For some reason this second part is a little tricky for me.  Right now the way I operate is strictly on an earning basis.  Don't get me wrong, I think everyone needs to work hard to achieve their goals but then you become worthy of the benefits of your labour.

I think I need to change my thoughts process and start reaping some benefits.

Realization

Over the past few years I have been thinking a lot about what kind of adult I want  to be.  Thoughts like "How do people perceive me?", "How can I be a great wife?", "How can I make my community a better place?" and "How can I be a good Mom someday?" are things I have given many hours of contemplation.

As references, I look to the adult figures in my life like parents, mentors and teachers.  I have found as I turn into an adult woman, I view these figures in a very different light.  As a child most adults in my life could do no wrong (I mean they were adults, whatever they do must be correct) and I idolized them.  Now as I become an adult and I am faced with choices, I am finding it difficult to look up to those figures because their choices are not matching up with what I want for my life.

Things I thought I knew, are now items I ponder and question.  This is an exciting realization because this is how I believe we evolve but it's also troubling.

What I am attempting to do right now is choose the characteristics that generally drew me to those figures, focus on those, take them with me, leave the rest behind and make room for me to write the rest of the rules myself.

The next big questions with writing your own rules is of course "How do I know if I am doing it right?"  

I hope to always analyze the way I live my life and continue to grow and learn but I think what I need to do is figure out what I want, what the end result looks like and then create a map that will help me get there.

Time to start planning my route, 26 year old me knows a little bit about what I want.